The world is a dangerous place. It’s no secret that this world is hell for the man who works without purpose or direction. Building a moral code and a set of principles that you abide by is critical for young men, especially if you are in your 20s or 30s if you want to not only survive but thrive as a man. The first thing you should realize is that you and your entire group of friends will change over the next few years. When it comes to making new friends, try prioritizing shared values over social vibes. Don’t be afraid of colleagues who outperform you in your field. Each of us works at our own pace.
Don’t be forced to do something you don’t want to do. For example, when I was in high school, my friends were already working as cashiers and making money, but I knew from the start that this was not something I wanted to do. I didn’t want to work for someone I didn’t like and do a job I despised my entire life before retiring in my 60s. Instead, I focused my efforts on mastering the art of starting a business. I didn’t allow others to force me to work because I knew what I was doing, that decision would put me three years ahead of the curve. You will inevitably lose friends who do not deserve you if you do what you love.
This also implies that you will meet people who will assist you in moving forward as a youngster if you want people to see you as mature, then practice manners. In today’s world, having good manners is considered uncool. We are fed a lot of garbage through TV shows and movies. However, if you want to see yourself escape toxic relationships and build healthy ones, not only in dating but also in business settings, then learn to treat others with respect and humility.
Returning to my business example, learn how to begin saving and investing.
Don’t wait until you have more money to start learning the art of investing and gradually building up your portfolio. You’ll be grateful later. Put yourself to the test, but don’t be too strict. This is something we always say on the on marriedBOY. Whether trying to grow yourself or learning a new skill, your mind and body must gradually adapt, just like progressive overload in the gym in your mid to late twenties and thirties.
Find a great mentor, someone who holds you accountable for your progress but never takes credit for it.
This is also the time when some young men begin to believe that they have no luck with women. But keep in mind that dating will become easier for men in their late twenties and thirties. That is true if you put in the effort now and begin building a better body and your stacked wallet. You will be in the top one per cent of men when you reach the age of 30. This is the time when everyone will be looking at you. If you want to find your passion, start trying everything.
Being busy working on something provides inspiration for passion. Don’t expect to be taken seriously as an adult right away. You’ll miss the freedom you had in your early twenties when you were an adult. Take risks and never turn down opportunities because you can now see the world in a new light and also be kind, humble, and decent to yourself and others. Listen more, speak less, and put in the extra effort. As a general rule. Don’t be a jerk and avoid hanging out with them. It’s easy to confuse ego and confidence. Remember, boys, your early years will shape the rest of your life. You will reap what you sow now because of the habits you are developing.
What you sow now will reap later because the habits you form now will become so ingrained in your mind that they will be difficult to break in the future. So, what happens if you decide to make drinking and prodding a habit? That’s right. Your brain rewires to accommodate these habits. However, if you establish better habits, such as reading or listening to audiobooks for at least one hour per day, you will see amazing results in the future. This is the most important time in your life. Every uncomfortable situation you avoid is an opportunity to learn new things, and you will come to regret these small sacrifices later in life.
To become involved in everything that is going on around you. Never give up just because you think you’re bad at something. You’d be surprised at how good you are at things you despise. Concentrate on staying mentally and physically fit. You won’t believe how much time and money you’ll save in the long run. This decade will also bring you and your loved ones many confrontations. Never let anything disturb your mental peace. Pay attention to your father. Your father will teach you many important life lessons. However, if you have to accept that they are humans, you will form an opinion that will stick with you for the rest of your life.
Make meditation a habit by practising it.
Begin praying in particular. Remember, a man is only as good as the man he idolizes. If you look to God Almighty for guidance, you will find victory in all aspects of your life. You will also face numerous distractions. There will be people who promise the world to get the better of you, so keep an eye out for betrayal and accept that you’re not perfect.
One thing I’ve noticed over the years is how men destroy their lives in the name of pursuing their passion. Even though discovering and pursuing your passion is beneficial, you can easily become disoriented while determining what you want. And then you’re 28 years old and have no direction in life. Some people, for example, attend university and then change courses in the middle. Then switch back and forth between working methods or start one business and don’t let it grow to full potential before moving on to the next. This is known as the “shiny gold syndrome.” Don’t be taken in by it.
Now is the time to be cautious about what you say to others.
You will not be respected if you say a lot. But ignoring everything makes matters worse. You will be perplexed and feel like an outsider. Your words will come back to haunt you. And remember, it’s not what you know, but who you know, that determines your worth. This is why your reputation is everything in your life, and you will set clear boundaries with friends, family, and lovers. Talking to a therapist could be beneficial. I understand that there are many stigmas associated with mental illness, but your mental health is just as important as your physical health.
At this point, you may be ignoring how severe depression can be for some people. It can be caused by a variety of factors. It frequently manifests as the emergence of insecurities stemming from our negative life experiences. If you are afraid of talking to a licenced therapist. Try talking about your traumas with a close relative, insecurities can be extremely unpleasant. So mentally prepare yourself and find a good listener. Ideally, avoid disclosing your dark secrets to your girlfriend. Instead, speak with a masculine figure who can offer straightforward solutions. When you are worried and feeling out of place. Consider the following. Is it possible for me to change the situation? If this is the case, you should not be concerned.
If the answer is no, you should not be concerned because the situation is beyond your control. This is referred to as having a stoic mindset. You can’t control life, but you can control how you respond to it. When you can control your reaction, you can start to control your life. And the situation itself. Don’t forget to show some love, too.
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