Father|The Time Has Come To Raise Boys to Be Good Fathers. (We Can Not Fail Again)

Along with many other men my age in the 1980s, I understood that men demonstrate their concern for others through action. I was raised, like my ancestors before me, to look after people in my life, especially women, by spending for dates, killing insects and other scary creatures in the house, being the main earner, and responding to their needs. Love was defined through action.

Like many men my age, I want to be involved in my children’s life in a way that differs from how my fathers were involved—or, more accurately, were not engaged in my emotional life.

Fatherhood is extremely important to most men, regardless of what else they have or have not accomplished in their lives. Men, particularly new fathers, are incredibly proud of their children and their past achievements; the phrase “loving dad” is not a cliche.

Maybe more interestingly, becoming a father, whether through a planned pregnancy, a “mistake,” a formal surrogacy, or a (semi-)spontaneous choice to take in a sibling, is one of the few times in a man’s life when he is forced to stop and reflect on his life. It causes them to consider the big picture and how these pieces fit together.

Fatherhood is one of the few times in a man’s life when he is forced to pause and reflect on his life as a whole.

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When they begin spending quality time with their young kids, they learn how to respond to their child’s emotional needs. Young children freely express their emotions, including love, enthusiasm, fear, and sadness. Most men, however, do not, and they quickly realise that, despite their best efforts, they do not know how to react to their children’s emotions.

On average, African American men die 6 years younger than White men and 7 years younger than African American women. The gender gap among African Americans remains true for most diseases. Black men, for example, are almost twice as likely as Black women to die from cancer.


Researchers believe that teaching men how to care for themselves is an important part of helping them become better fathers. Perhaps taking better care of themselves stems from learning to be better fathers.

However, teaching a young man how to be a responsible man entails more than simply being present. It is a deliberate process of mentoring, training, and connecting that develops a boy’s desire and skills to become the kind of man we all hope he will become. Identifying the key important focus area with being a great man and a great father is the first step, followed by teaching and living them in your own life.

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